Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Winding Down ...

This has to be my favourite time of the year.

Especially knowing that I have a holiday around the corner and will be able to spend some time in my "happy place"! The anticipation of Christmas, the preparation, the lists, the baking, the thought going into those special gifts for special people ... last year I just couldn't get into the spirit of things. I suppose my situation at the time would not allow it and I just didn't have the energy for fun!

This year is very different! I have almost finished my Christmas shopping – I have NO intention of going to any Malls on holiday. The only shopping I want to do is grocery shopping! I have planned and packed our Christmas table decorations, next week I start baking and most of my gifts are bought, wrapped and labelled! Started getting my beach clothes together ... the excitement is almost too much!

But first, is the wind down at work. My first year-end function is tonight at the JSE Securities Exchange. The start of silly season! Lunches, office parties and Summer Cup! Handing over to assistants and making sure there are no outstanding queries or issues. So much to do in 16 days, hopefully it will help the time fly by.

As far as my Bucket List goes –crossed off another one – I have a tattoo! And I LOVE it! Makes me happy every time I see it! Two are a work in progress – planning a trip to the UK in July / August next year. Meeting up with two of my oldest friends, Jose (who lives in Austria) and Lynne (who lives in Scotland). That's something to look forward to. I have also planned to take horse riding lessons in the New Year, as soon as I get back in January.

A busy time ahead – I must just remain focused and in my "busyness" not forget to connect with the people who mean a lot to me!

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Bucket List

One of my favourite movies was "The Bucket List" starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. Not only are they two very accomplished actors, I found the story sad and funny at the same time, as well as thought provoking. Imagine, logging down all the things you want to do before you die. Hope I still have a long wait – before I "kick the bucket" – maybe that where the term comes from? Anyone know?

My bucket list might not be all that exciting to some, but there a few things that deal with me facing my fears and there are some that are just "goals" – there isn't a single thing I want to regret not doing!

  • Bring my weight down and get in shape!
  • Visit America and meet a REAL cowboy!
  • Reunite with my old friends in the UK squeeze in a visit to Ascot
  • Lead in my very own horse on its first win
  • Have my own racing colours
  • Learn how to ride a horse not sure about this one – been told it's irresponsible!
  • Get a tattoo
  • Be the proud owner of a Merc
  • See David Essex live!
  • Have my own a Bed & Breakfast
  • Go on a cruise
  • Enjoy my own bowl of Beluga caviar washed down with a bottle of Krug 1988 Champagne

Not a very long list, but hey! Who says I can't add to it as I go along! I've already achieved the two highlighted in red! Mmmm! Time to start working on the next one!


Friday, September 13, 2013

It could have been you...

Chatting to my assistant at work this morning, and she was telling me about a project that her church, The Florida Lake Adventist Church, are working on - a presentation this week-end about Rape. Sexual Violence in our country is rife – in fact we are probably one of the highest ranked countries in the world. The South African police have estimated that every 36 seconds, a woman is raped. The sad part is that many of these "women" are only little girls, some of them babies and the frightening part is that so little is done about it. The perpetrators seem to get away with it, time and time again. Perhaps, because so many of these crimes are not reported, often due to fear of victimisation.

It breaks my heart to think of the fear, the hurt (emotional), the pain (physical) and sheer horror of a crime like this.

The ladies in the church are collecting "Victims Packages" and have each put a package together, which will be delivered to various police stations, and handed out to victims once reporting their situation. Such basic necessities that could make a massive difference to someone suffering the trauma. I have no doubt it would never ease the pain, but might just give them back a tiny bit of dignity.

Victims Package

  • Bath Soap
  • Face Cloth
  • Underwear (small, medium or large)
  • Body Lotion
  • Toothpaste
  • Toothbrush
  • Brush / Comb
  • Sanitary towels
  • Packed in a pretty toiletry bag

Might be a nice idea for a group of ladies, like a book club, to get together and deliver some packages to their local police station. I've sponsored one – will you?

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Just one last time...

So many things I'd like to do ... just one last time!

  • Catch tiny silver fish in rock pools with a pink net
  • Experience my first day in high school, the anticipation of growing up in front of me
  • Dance in the rain and not care about getting wet
  • Enjoy "YOUNG" music without my friends looking at me as if I had lost the plot – some of it is really good!
  • Travel ... for the first time – gotta love that excitement
  • Gaze into the eyes of my beautiful, baby girl, (who is all grown up now) and just soak in the magic of being a mother
  • Hold my precious Mom's hands and just talk ... and talk ... and talk!

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Morning Smiles!

One of the highlights of my morning, is the "paper man" who stands on the corner of Kelvin and Rivonia Roads every morning. With his bright red coat, The Star, emblazoned across it in white and his big pile of newspapers! He stands on the corner, full of beans, chatting and smiling at every car that goes by!

He knows I won't buy a paper, because I told him that I get one at work every day, but that doesn't stop him from running up to my car every morning ... "Morning M'ami" he calls, " have a wonderful day!" and he touches his heart!

He lifts me, every day and reminds to be happy with what I have. Because there are people out there with little, who constantly have a smile on their faces!

Sunday, September 1, 2013

The Dating Game ...

I haven't played this game in a long time.  And I'm not playing it again ... for now anyway!  I have VERY clear ideas on what I want, and what I don't want ... selfish?  Maybe, but now I can be!

I don't want a relationship!  Relationships lead to expectations, and expectations lead to (God forbid) commitment.  I don't want someone to look after me.  I can look after myself.  I don't need someone to spoil me.  I spoil myself whenever I feel like it (maybe ... I can do some spoiling?)  I don't want to have to ask if it's ok to have lunch with my friends, or go to book club, or have my hair or nails done!  I don't want to be questioned about whether I NEEDED a new pair of jeans, or WANTED them!  I don't want a boyfriend!

I would like a friend!  Someone I can talk to.  Someone who gives me butterflies when the phone rings, or message beeps!  Maybe a stolen week-end away with no strings attached.

I DO believe in happy marriages.  I know of MANY.  But I have been down that road ... twice and being the good girl never got me anywhere.  I was told by someone on Friday night, that he could fall in love with me, "but you give me the cold shoulder!" I am so glad he got the message - I don't want to fall in love, or have anyone fall in love with me.  Not now!

To my male friends who are married or in relationships - please don't pass cute remarks.  I know the difference between flirting and being nice.  It makes me uncomfortable and I will not go down that road.

I have learnt so much over the past few months, and have been contemplating this post for a while.  So what have I learnt?  To let go of all the negative things in my life.  Not to "sweat the small stuff'.  That happiness is vital and if something makes me unhappy, to let it go.  I have learnt to stay away from gossip.  If people have things to say, that's their right - maybe I gave them something to talk about and that's ok!  I just won't be a part of it.  I have learnt not to be ashamed of my age, or who I am.  I am not ashamed of my wrinkles (although I can't say I LIKE them ;))  Each one has a story to tell - hopefully the smile ones are the more prominent.  I learnt that age is but a number, and that I am only as young as I feel ... and right now, I'm feeling exactly the same way as I did when I was 20!

Disclaimer:  These are my thoughts only.  No-one prompted me to write them down and they are not directed at anyone or meant to offend anyone.

Friday, August 30, 2013

Fluff and Stuff!

I was going through my archive blogs – just seeing where I was this time last year, and the year before, and before that! Some of the memories are happy ones, some of them are sad, but all reminders of my life. I am so thankful for my blog and all the friends I have made through it! I found this meme which I took part in, in August 2009 and thought I would do it again – with changes highlighted in red! Just for fun ... and to see how much my life has changed!


  1. What time did you get up this morning? My alarm went off at 04h45 and I eventually got up at 05h15! I am really struggling in this cooler weather. I don't like getting up in the morning! Got up at 5- had my run – left home early for the "State of the Nation" address at work by Henry Blumenthal.

    2. How do you like your steak? Rare to medium rare with NO basting! I especially like a juicy rib eye!
    Nothing has changed, although I haven't had a good steak in a while!

    3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? Do you know that I cannot remember! I think it might have been the one about the dog with Jennifer Aniston – what was it called … "Marley and Me!"
    Still not an avid movie goer, but the last one I saw was "The Great Gatsby" with my friend Kath, sometime in late June. I LOVED it!

    4. What is your favourite TV show? Not a big TV fan, but I do like the cooking programes, Masterchef being one of my favourites. Also like the Crime stories and some of the medical stuff!
    Still don't watch much TV, but now enjoy the racing channel!

    5. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be? You know, sometimes I have a big mouth and talk about leaving SA, but I think somewhere here – definitely in the country with a warm and cosy B & B!
    Would still love my B&B, and it would have to be in Assagay KZN – always been my "happy place"!

    6. What did you have for breakfast? A toasted bagel with strawberry jam and a hot chocolate!
    Muesli, Yoghurt and a cup of green tea

    7. What is your favourite cuisine? Hmmm! I like Thai cuisine, and seafood!
    At the moment – hahaha – nothing other than salad!

    8. What kind of food do you dislike? Tripe – kidneys, liver anything like that! Also NOT a big veggie fan!
    Liking veggies more and more – still hate the tripe stuff

    9. Favourite place to eat? Chiurresquera in Rosettenville or Bombay Palace in Olivedale. I also like The Meat Co. at Monte.
    Love Lupa in Hillcrest

    10. What kind of vehicle do you drive? A black VW Polo Player, TDi – my best car ever!
    New favourite – Merc C180 – totally in love!

    11. What are your favourite clothes? Casual – jeans or casual pants with a nice shirt and SANDALS – I hate wearing winter shoes!
    Pretty much the same!

    12. Where would you visit if you had the chance? Been to Europe and the UK a few times. I would like to visit the States and maybe New Zealand.
    The States and Australia

    13. Cup ½ empty or ½ full? Half full!
    Definitely half full

    14. Where would you want to retire? To the Natal Midlands -

    15. Favourite time of the day? Home time – leaving the office in the afternoon with a good drive home – enough time to clear my brain before getting home and preparing dinner!
    Late afternoon

    16. Where were you born? The Mary Mount, Johannesburg, South Africa
    – no change! J

    17. What is your favourite sport to watch? NOTHING – I hate watching sport on TV!
    Horse Racing

    18. Bird Watcher? No!

    19. Morning or night person? Morning I think!

    20. Do you have pets? We have three family pets – a border collie called Holly, a long haired Dachshund called Schatzie and a tame guinea fowl called Vinegar!
    Not even a husband!!

    21. New and exciting news you'd like to share? Nothing at all – same old, same old!

    22. What did you want to be when you were little? Always a teacher – and I was for 12 years!
    .... still miss it sometimes!

    23. What is your best childhood memory? Family holidays, getting sunburnt and sitting on the beach with an ice-cream cone! Watching my dad and brothers fish off the rocks! Those were wonderful days!

    24. Are you a cat or a dog person? I am not an animal person at all! They give me terrible hayfever, but I do prefer dogs to cats!
    Mmm ... totally don't mind – Stacey has cats and I really have become quite fond of them!

    25. Are you married? Yes, to Philip!
    No - single

    26. Always wear your seatbelt? ALWAYS!

    27. Been in a car accident? Only a bumper bashing! Thank God for that!

    28. Favorite pizza topping? Mozzarella, ham and pineapple.
    Bacon, feta and green pepper

    29. Favorite Flower? Daffodils

    30. Favorite Ice-cream? Chocolate-
    never have it anymore – but it would probably still be chocolate

    31. Favorite Fast food restaurant? Kentucky
    – don't like fast food !

    32. How many times did you fail your drivers test? Once
    - same

    33. Who did you get your last email from? Christine
    - Pat

    34. Which store would you choose to max your credit card on? Woolworths (Seems to be the most popular!)
    – Jenni Button

    33. Do anything spontaneous lately? Bought Time Share!
    Went to Assagay for a midweek break!

    34. Happy with your job? Most times! I have my moments!

    35. Broccoli? No! –
    still not!

    36. What was your favorite vacation? Our trip to the Black Forest in Germany. It's a beautiful place! I felt as though I was living in a story book!
    Although I still loved our visit to the Black Forest – new memories in the making and I haven't travelled for a while!

    37. Last person you went out to dinner with? Philip and Stacey-

    38. What are listening to right now? Marlene coughing!
    – printer going

    39. What is your favourite colour? Blue -

    40. How many tattoos do you have? Not one!
    Still none, but am planning on changing that

    41.. Coffee drinker? I don't mind it sometimes, but it's not my favorite. One cup a day is MORE than enough for me! And sometimes after a nice meal I don't mind a cup! Ezio's filter coffee is my favorite!
    Was drinking quite a bit, but have cut down to one a day again!